Love-Drunk Woes

Well, with Sunday arriving, by now anyone who was planning on celebrating Valentine’s Day (or pretending not to celebrate Valentine’s Day by celebrating alone) should have done so.  And now you’re probably feeling the effects of that greeting-card holiday on the town. 

Now, you might actually be actually hung-over, but for most of us, it’s probably less actually hung-over, and more about the love-hangover. 

Yes, that’s right, I’m calling you out on your love-drunkness.

Now, being love-drunk is not something to be ashamed of.  While it is embarrassing, it’s something that everyone goes through on occasion…or, all the time.   What is being love-drunk, you ask?  Well, it has many connotations.  Shakespeare would probably say that it’s how Romeo felt when he met Juliet.  My eight year-old self might say it’s what you feel when you find out the cutest boy in class likes you.  The girl yelling on the street corner of my home at one in the morning would probably tell you in slurred words that it’s the reason she can’t figure out which way leads to the bus stop.  I would like to say that it’s that generic rush a person gets when they begin to imagine all the romantic possibilities of Valentine’s day. 

Love-drunk: Fun while it lasts, not worth it when it’s over. 

What I find ironic are those vocal singles who take the time to verbally communicate their disdain for Valentine’s day, because what they’re actually saying is that they care enough about Valentine’s day to acknowledge it and post to the world how they feel about it.  What they really hate probably has nothing to do with Valentine’s day, and everything to do with the fact that they are single. 

This is my biggest problem with this made-up greeting-card holiday.  Frankly, I find it almost depressing how society still puts so much emphasis on relationships and getting married.  Don’t get me wrong—I certainly want both of these in my life, and yes these are very important, but not so important that we should need a holiday to remind us of them.   Love and relationships are something that should be celebrated everyday—why do we need to designate one day out of the whole year to celebrate this? Frankly, I feel as though Valentine’s day could potentially be a cop-out for those who don’t want to put the effort into celebrating a relationship the other 364 days of the year.  Are we that lazy?  Do we need a designated holiday on the calendar in order to celebrate what is special in our lives?

I’m also saddened by the number of people who take this day to pity themselves because they are ‘alone on Valentine’s Day’.  What’s wrong with being single on Valentine’s day?  What is it with this idea that being in a relationship somehow correlates with happiness?  Can’t I be just as happy on my own as I am with someone else?  Sure, having a friend or a companion or a significant other to spend the holiday with is nice, but there is this disturbing cultural emphasis on having a boyfriend.  I say having a boyfriend because this is something I notice particularly with women; not so much with guys.  For some reason, it’s been drilled into our brains that we can’t be happy or measure the successfulness of our lives if we don’t have a man by our sides.  This bothers me.  If you are single, be happy!  Have fun!  Enjoy life, and friends, and good food.  Don’t get love-drunk on those romantic notions in women’s magazines or Hollywood films.  Drinking lots of water won’t prevent your hangover the next day.  Just avoid the pity party all together and save yourself two pints of chocolate ice cream.  Smile, look in the mirror, and ask yourself out on a date. Then buy yourself some flowers and make dinner reservations for one.

…Okay, that might not be the best thing to do, either. But I’d rather hear about your experiences doing that, than listen to the numerous woe-is-me stories we all know take over facebook on Valentine’s Day.

 The moral of the story is this: your love-drunkness bothers me. Stop it.

*If you are experiencing uncontrollable love-drunkness and are ready to receive help, please visit,, and feel renewed in your independence. 

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